I hope you are well. I am well, trying to survive but good. Did you hear about the marriage bill? So apparently you can have as many wives as you wish now. Did you see the part they removed the clauses about asking me if you can get a second wife?, or the one where if you promised to marry a girl you can be sued? Those are arears of interest.
So if that bill becomes law you can promise anyone you will marry them but when I come along you will leave them high and dry. I know fairy tales will have you believe that this is how true love works but I have to insist that you don’t leave any girl at the altar. No one wants to be the women he left for his true love, no one wants to be the filler girl ( the girl who acts as your girlfriend till you find the one).
Does it bother you that the place of women has been set back 50 years by this bill? On that note I hope you are a big advocate of women rights. In my fantasies I see you as the bat man of our country. Maybe not bat man because if I changed the letters in the Bat by adding a U and Ts then I would have a problem on my hands.
Maybe you have been raised by a single mother and appreciate the strength of a woman more. But you know what; I hope you had an unbroken family and still respect women. I hope your father taught you the important things in life. Things like how to treat a lady. I am a lady by the way. Not those noble English women you see on TV. No, I am a well behaved young woman. At least I try to be.
I hope by the time I meet you, you would have had your fill of ogling and groping everything in a skirt. I hope all those days in the university sated your curiosity. I hope that when you decide to settle down you will have tamed your roving eye. We don’t want you panting after the house girl, do we now?
I hope you had a female friend, not romantically involved though. A female that friend zoned you so bad you started seeing her as a sister.
She should have given you an insight to how the woman brain works. I hope she made you curious on how to get into a woman’s head and not her pants. I hope she had many break ups and you gave her advice on how to deal with your kind.
I also hope there was a woman that broke your heart. A woman who made your heart feel like exploding in a myriad of pain. Maybe she chose your best friend over you. You spent your nights cursing her and hoping she realizes you were the best thing ever to walk this earth. This I hope will make you appreciate when you have a good thing.
But in the same breath I hope you were not on those damn lists university girls like to write. The infected list they like to call it. I hope you were smart enough to protect yourself. Not not wonder which STI you caught p
from which first year. But I am assuming when I see you I will know you were careful in your encounters.
But say, maybe you were not as careful and the product is a kid. I hope you do all you can to take care of the little one. I hope you struggle to see him or her through school. No, not through school let me call it child support since there is more to raising a kid than providing for his school fees. For example did you wake up in the middle of the night because you heard he was sick and was in the hospital? Did you sacrifice going clubbing to buy the little one pampers? Did you baby sit when the baby mama had to sit for an exam? What kind of relationship do you have with the mother of your kid? I hope you are civil to her and don’t give me crap about her tricking you into being with her, you should have had more self-control if you were to use this line. I hope there won’t come a time you will seek sexual favours from the ex. You won’t give me the line, “I think she is still into me”.
Religion should not matter, as long as you are not those overzealous religious freaks. You have to believe in God, a higher being. I think people who believe in a higher being are more considerate of how they relate to others. Atheists are hard to deal with, I have met a couple. They always seem to be mocking people who believe in something. If you don’t believe in God why waste time talking about how the scriptures are wrong. Yes, perhaps they do know the bible much better than some Christians and they will use this knowledge to bash the religion, what’s the deal with that. I hope you do know I value spirituality though. Thats why I insist on believing in a higher being.
Oh and I hope you are not a member of a cult either or those weird religions that don’t allow their people to go to the hospitals. P.S my kids need polio injections. I hope your love of God doesn’t lead you to kill or maim people. Then again I hope you are a Christian. A practicing Christian, not those people who know naught about what it is about and only think is a once in a week affair. Here I have to insist that you don’t have to do everything by the book like the Pharisees. You should know the value of not judging. Know the fundamentals and abide by them. Things like helping the less fortunate in the society are always a plus.
Finally I would like to ask “what kind of a man are you?” I hope you are the kind of man that strives to be the head of the house. By that I mean you are working your ass off right now so that your children will lack for nothing. But it’s ok if you don’t earn as much as you would like to. I will chip in when I can. I hope you are not one of those men who believe in house wives because I am not a stay at home. I am struggling to make a name out here, to make sure that I have a comfortable life. I pride myself in being an independent woman. Again I insist I hope you respect the women in your life and don’t see them as objects. And finally I hope you will always be there for you children.
I know this was supposed to be about knowing me but knowing me is by knowing what I want 😉
Till we meet,
Your future wife